Practice the act of responding, not reacting. You feel things more deeply than people realize, which is why you sometimes tend to react to things impulsively. But when we let our emotions take the wheel, we’re more likely to act in self-destructive ways and overwhelm ourselves with heavy emotions. Next time something disappointing or stressful happens, take a step back and remember that while you can’t always control your emotions, you can control how you respond to them—and in learning to respond to them in a level-headed way, you’ll be able to create an environment where your mental health can thrive.
Give yourself permission to relax and indulge—as long as it’s in a healthy way, of course. You have a tendency to push yourself to the limit, which can be admirable but also incredibly hard on yourself. Do you get things done? Certainly. But that doesn’t mean it’s not important to take a step back and let yourself refuel and recharge. And what better way to do that than to treat yourself? You have a luxurious streak, which can be dangerous when completely unchecked but great for when you really need to focus on your wellbeing. Take yourself out for a great meal, meet friends for drinks, splurge on an experience you’ve always wanted to do. Remember: Sometimes you’re allowed to just treat yourself for no reason other than the fact that your mental health needs the booth.
Put yourself out there and connect with others. When you feel exhausted, anxious, or even depressed, it’s easy to cut yourself off from others, but this might actually be worse for your mental health. While it’s perfectly fine to spend some time for yourself to rest, it’s also important to reach out to people who make you feel seen, loved, and appreciated—and also people who know how to get you out of your own head. And if you’re really struggling, don’t be afraid to ask for help—the people in your life want to be there for you.
Make sure your living space makes you feel comfortable, calm, and safe. You are such a homebody, which is why the state of your house can often affect your mental health more than you even realize. It’s important that you decorate your house in a way that really makes it feel like home, whatever that means for you—maybe that means lots of cozy blankets and pillows, maybe it means covering the walls with art, or maybe it just means having all your favorite things out and on display. It might also help you to clean up your living space a little more than usual (or even have someone else do it for you), because your environment affects your stress levels and your overall mindset.
Stop putting stake into anything that makes you feel insecure. You have a tendency to compare yourself and your life with others’, which can make you feel less than or like you’re doing something wrong (even though you’re absolutely not). The best thing you can do for yourself is to take a break from the things that make you ultimately feel bad about yourself. Do you find yourself scrolling through Instagram and feeling jealous of what your peers (or even strangers) are doing? Take a social media break. Do you have a friend that constantly makes you feel belittled or not good enough? Set some boundaries or even try to distance yourself from them.
Let go of unrealistic expectations—both for others and for yourself. You tend to have a perfectionist streak, and when you don’t live up to your own standards, you can be incredibly hard on yourself. And when things get overwhelming, it only gets worse—you start beating yourself up for not being able to handle things the way you think you should or tell yourself it’s happening because you aren’t good enough. But please, be kind to yourself, and remember that you’re a person who is doing their best and that that’s enough—and, similarly, that the people around you are also trying, even when you think they simply aren’t doing enough.
Practice self-care in its most basic form. If you’ve been feeling burnt out, stressed, or anxious, it’s time to book a spa day, splurge on a nice dinner and bottle of wine, or even plan a day out with a loved one to a museum or somewhere else full of beautiful sights. You thrive when you feel pampered and taken care of, but it’s so easy to forget to do these basic things for yourself, especially when life becomes busy or overwhelming—exactly when you need them the most. So this is your sign: Do the things that make you feel relaxed or even spoiled—you deserve it.
Find a way to express your emotions in a productive way—not a self-destructive one. You have a lot of feelings, Scorpio, but you also have a tendency to bottle them up until you simply cannot handle them anymore. Instead of turning to bad habits or lashing out, find a way to channel that energy into other pursuits—maybe something creative like art or poetry, singing loudly in the car (or anywhere), or even just journaling how you feel. What matters is that there’s an outlet for you that won’t hurt anyone—most of all you.
Practice the art of stillness. This can be difficult for you, Sagittarius—you love the adventure, the constant motion, and the noise. But sometimes when you’re going through something difficult, instead of dealing with the problem or really working through your emotions, you run away or ignore your feelings by distracting yourself. But what if instead you chose to stop? What if you chose to fully process what you’re feeling in the moment, even when it’s uncomfortable? Tune out the noise and the busyness and listen to your own mind and body—they know what you need, if only you’d acknowledge them.
This November, make a conscious effort to take a break. I don’t mean a five-minute reprieve from work, I mean a whole day, or maybe even longer if you can make it work (and I trust that you probably can). During that time, disconnect from anything work-related, turn off your phone, and silence that part of your brain that always tells you what you need to do. Responsibilities can wait. Right now, it’s more important to focus on the things that bring you genuine happiness, whether that’s playing your favorite game, hiking in a beautiful spot, traveling somewhere new, or even just expressing yourself creatively. It’s time for you to put yourself first and let yourself exist in a purely enjoyable way.
Surround yourself with a community that makes you feel like you can be yourself—exactly how you are. Sometimes you feel disconnected from the world, and when you’re stressed, you may float away from reality completely. To make it worse, you sometimes feel like others don’t fully understand you or the way you’re feeling. That’s why it’s so important to spend time with people who have similar interests or a similar way of feeling. If you have those people in your life already, make an effort to spend time with them and to communicate the way you feel with them; if you don’t, keep your eye out for communities that have shared interests or values and make a connection. You may need it more than you even realize.
Take a step back from people or situations that make you feel emotionally or energetically drained. You have a tendency to take on other people’s emotions or, at the very least, to become the person that people go to when they need something. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to be someone else’s safe space, but it’s also important that you create boundaries that protect your own well being and cut off connections with those who only want to take advantage of you. Remember that you cannot give from an empty cup, that you will not have the proper resources to help others until you can properly nurture yourself. This is the time to make sure that you’re putting yourself first.